OK, I felt like that had to be said out loud. I sometimes want to shout it a bit. We all see it on various social platforms, the latest XYZ thing. I get it, I most definitely have been sucked into the hype of new things in the past. I probably will in the future. The point? You don’t have to.
It’s been talked about for years, the tribal need to be part of something bigger than yourself. In a way we all are. I wonder sometimes does that need to find your tribe override the need to find the right tribe. I’ve always owned a sense of my own oddities, but kept them hidden for fear of being judged – something most of us have done at some point.
I’ve talked repeatedly about figuring out my authentic self and taking ownership of myself. I’m even very much owning my otherwise “boring” hobbies. I love crafting, I love crocheting and sewing cushions – I’m getting excited about starting a top soon. I think as we get older these types of hobbies become “cool”, or maybe as we age with our peers, we see the interest in these hobbies. We know the skill required, the brain power involved and the joy of completing a project.
Recently I went along to a crafternoon. There was a room filled with women and men, working on all sorts of projects. We had knitters mixed with jewellery makers, painters and sewers, all happily chatting and sharing knowledge. I spent the hours making a cushion cover – it’s made up of multiple strips of material and I’m very proud of myself for making it – I followed up quickly with a second similar one. I rediscovered skills I’d long forgotten and discovered quite a few new ones from the wonderful people that helped me along.
It was such a great way to spend the afternoon. There was cake and tea involved too, they were an added bonus. The aim of the afternoon was not only to spend it chatting, chilling out and providing some much needed self care time, it was also to share some knowledge and to help each other out. It was a safe space to ask questions, to find a way to solve that crafting problem and learn something new. We had a knitting nurse helping on one table and quite a few sewing experts floating about. We all tried to help each other out if needed. I wasn’t the youngest in the room either which made me happy. It was a wonderful success and I can’t wait for next month’s meetup.
If I’d been worried about being trendy or my image, I might not have gone. I might have worried what would be thought of me spending time with women older than me. Ah the naiveness of youth. Now I couldn’t care less about age. I care more about the type of person you are, than the years you’ve gathered. I’d rather spend time with people I can learn from and share ideas and have similar interests to. I’d also rather spend my money on things that interested me and that I get more from.
My name is Áine and I love crocheting, knitting and making things, among other random interests. What hobbies make you happy? How do you like to spend your time? Maybe you also love devouring books? Or you’re discovering how to skate as an adult (something I’m working on).
I think the point of all this, is to make yourself happy however you see fit. As Adrienne (yoga with Adrienne) says – find what feels good. Also wear what feels good, don’t feel the pressure to fit in, try all the things and stick with whatever tickles your fancy. Either way, enjoy it all. Why not!
I’ve included a few wee snippets of this in the latest weekly vlog if you fancy a wee nosy. Either way